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In a Heartbeat

Hello everyone. I haven't posted much lately.  I've been pretty busy.

Have you ever loved someone so much that you would've done almost anything for them?

In the last nine months, I've had the priviledge of taking care of a terminally family member, someone I love very much. Diagnosed with lymphoma for the second time, we knew our time left together was short. For the first 8 weeks of treatment, things were better as the lymphoma went into remission.  So for a few months at least, life was normalized. Even her specialists and the staff were surprised at how well she was doing. Her name was becoming so familiar, she almost appeared to be reaching rock star status. Even the pharmacy knew who she was the second we called for a refill on her prescriptions.



But the last week of her life , she started going downhill very quickly.

We think we're prepared as we know the final outcome. But we're not. When that days comes, we're still clinging to hope. Maybe it's an infection that can treated, maybe a little more of this medicine or that, maybe, maybe, maybe...

But there's that defining moment when you know it's time to say goodbye, when your heart is so broken, you can hardly breathe.

We had the privilege of praying our 17 year old cat "Boller Girl" into Heaven as the the beautiful music of her favorite Christian singing group played in the background. She passed just as the song ended with the word Jesus.  Not a coincidence as He was there too, waiting to place her in His loving arms to take her home.

It's easy to praise God when things are going well, but I believe when we praise Him through our losses, He is especially honored. And that's exactly what we did. We praised God for her life, for the extra time He gave us with her, praised Him for her excellant medical care, praised Him for a beautiful passing and praised Him with our broken hearts. We have  the reassurance of being together again someday.

Nine months of care, specialists, medicine, loss of sleep, and towards the end feeding her soft food through a small squeeze bottle. I held off on Book Signing Events, stayed close to home, and did only what I had to do.  I loved her all the way through it.

If anyone asked me, based on my experience taking care of a terminally ill patient, even a cat, if I would do it again, I would tell them, "In a heartbeat."

Your friend,

Mary Netreba


0 #2 Doris Horton 2013-10-14 15:04
So sorry for your loss, I have a cat too!
I was at the festival in Marion NC this weekend and asked everyone for your booth. I got & read Rosemary for Remembrance last year & passed it on to family & friends & we all agreed that was the best book ever. I was in hope you had another book out. I will bez checking back in. GOD BLESS
+1 #1 Vickie 2011-11-15 00:31
Hi Mary,
Thank you for sharing this. I, too, had a beautiful kitty who loved music and had a home-going after years of loving and being loved. Her name is Lacey. I say "is" because I believe she is in heaven, not gone forever, just there instead of here. More recently, I said goodbye (for now) to a little dog of sixteen years named Oreo. Very thankful to the Lord for time with each of them. I loved seeing the picture of your beautiful girl. I met you in Barnes and Noble the other day at your book signing. We talked about martial arts and several other good things. God bless.

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